When my friends and I come together we don’t always end up talking about lives and the things we’re going through. Sometimes we just crack jokes or do some fun activity together, but sometimes things get deep. As we begin to open up one by one I always notice that at least two out of four of us, if not all of us, are going through similar circumstances. Not only that, but these conversations are often filled with the details of the struggles we wouldn’t share were it not for that moment.
Each times this happens I am overwhelmed with emotions. As we take turns listening to each other. Every now and then, one might interject to speak life, but the night almost orchestrates itself into a time of prayer.
In these kinds of settings, I always talk about how the enemy would love to catch us slippin’. He wants us to think that we’re the only one going through what we’re going through. He wants to make us feel like we’re alone in this, he wants us to feel like we have no power over our circumstances, and he wants us to believe his lies. But this is not our portion as children of God.
Being a part of a good solid community is important is foundational for a healthy Christian life, but to truly reap its benefits transparency is a must. I once heard someone say this:
“If all you give people is the fake side of you, then don’t expect the real side of you to get healed. In order to experience real healing and real wholeness you gotta be transparent and give people the real you!”
So you can’t expect your leaders and friends to read your mind and know what you’re going through. Okay, so maybe you have some superprophetic people in your life who be knowin’ stuff in spirit, but that’s not the point. Your leaders and friends want to pray for you. They care about you, want to see you grow, and have your best interest at heart. So, there’s no reason why you should be just sitting there struggling in silence.
If this is something you have been struggling lately, I just came on here to tell you that it’s time to open up. It might be hard, and it might be uncomfortable, but it will be worth it in the end.
Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up. Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm. But how can one keep warm alone? Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken. – Ecclesiastes 4:9-12